In a long distance relationship, there are so many obvious factors that stack the odds – and people’s opinions and pity – against you. There are the hundreds and even thousands of miles that separate you from the one you love. There are the weeks and months that stretch unfathomably on until the next time you see their familiar, smiling face and hug their warm body, the one that you’ve missed having in the other half of the bed so much that some nights, you’ve woken up with your pillow still damp from the tears that unknowingly squeezed out even as you slept.
And during the seemingly endless countdown for which you both know the exact number of remaining days and hours, friends and family offer trite and naïve words of pity, doubt, and comfort: “You’re wasting your beautiful youth! Break up and find someone here who can be with you every day like you deserve.” “I don’t understand why you’d subject yourself to this waiting, but if you think it’s worth it….” “Oh, honey, remember that absence makes the heart fonder. Only two months left!”